We all talk too often about Clueless men. Well a new study is out that says the men are more apt to listen to words than take stock of someone’s actions.
In the world of body language, men do not seem to have the same sense of interpretation as do women. The good professor often says, “Men are simple creatures.” And according to this new study men DO need things spelled out.
From CNN.com living this piece posted today says, She is Just Not that Into You — or IS SHE? ” Case in point: If a woman is giving ‘I’m interested’ signals — touching a man on the arm, for example, or maintaining eye contact and smiling while talking — but then talks about how she’s not really interested in dating, the man’s going to believe her words, Stafford says, not her action.”
Reality check: And in reality we know of men whose girl friends track them down in a crowded airport halfway across the world and will manage to get information about whether or not they have a travel companion. When confronted “Are your tracking me down?” all she needs to say is “Oh, no. I was worried about you.”
When will the CIA or the FBI come to realize that a jealous woman can find out more about her man than all the detectives in the world. And when confronted by the man, she will simply cry and he will listen to her words rather than trust his gut and look at her actions.
Women saving women: But conversely, if there was a study about women’s instincts, women who are jealous usually have a reason and many a woman’s dignity was saved when she learned the truth about her man. But ironically, the truth sets women free, whereas men just wait until reality hits them over the head. She’s Just Not Into You
Ironically a book with a similar title was a highlight on a Sex and the City episode several years ago –only this book was called He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys (The Newly Expanded Edition) by Greg Behrendt, Liz Tuccillo, and Lauren Monchik
The message here is simple and the title of many books on effective communications — it is called, “Say What You Mean.”
Copyright 2008 Rita Watson