Anne Hathaway is talking about her former boyfriend’s big lie. All men and women who have been duped find that it is humiliating.
Most often it is men who buy the big lies. During one of our cigar nights out — with the ladies before I joined Cigar Masters — one of the women said, “Listen, I understand men. I don’t like being confrontational. If I am told a story I believe it — even if it doesn’t happen to be true. I would rather accept it and walk away and then when I come back, hopefully we can get to the truth.”
I can’t begin to tell you the number of men I know of who can easily be called Professor or Dr. or CEO Clueless. And yet it happens to women who are too trusting as well.
A male friend of mine has an accountant who learned after 10 years of marriage that her husband has a second family on the West Coast. He was always a traveler, and while she suspected him of infidelity, she had no idea he was raising children with another woman.
What if friends warn you that your love might be cheating, or leading a double life, or responsible for giving you a sexually transmitted disease?
Sometimes you confront your love and he or she gets angry with you for doubting them. Then what? You back down, and friends become incredulous because they know you are buying a love lie. What happens? Hopefully it doesn’t get as bad as what happened to Anne Hathaway.
Seems that her man Raffaello Follieri, 30, has been arrested from serious charges stemming for accusations that he “swindled millions from investors.”
What should you do if you suspect you are being lied to?
Instead of buying a story, confront. And talk to friends! This is one time you should not be relying on your own judgement. If your friends think you are being duped even after what you think is a plausible story — you are probably living in the world of denial.
For Anne Hathaway, who has dealth with the issue with a sense of humor up to now, she is now taking a more cathartic route and is Tossing Her Ex Under the Bus.
Copyright 2008 Rita Watson