The headlines blare of mistresses but the good news for 2011 is that late reports in 2010 showed a decrease in infidelity. Despite Internet statistics, often skewed and inaccurate, infidelity has not increased in over 20 years say scientists and analysts. Marriage and Infidelity Q & A: Is infidelity decreasing?. So instead of worrying about your husband use these weeks before Valentine’s Day to give your relationship a boost.
Here are eight ideas for couples
•Order personalized candy such as M&Ms that say, “I love U.”
•Order T-shirts for each other that say, “I am married to the world’s BEST.”
•Find photos of yourself when you first met and have them photocopied onto coffee mugs.
•Order a calendar that has a little note for each month; for example, “I still remember our first New Year’s Eve together.”
•Order fortune cookies filled with love or friendships sayings and mail them to his or her office.
•Fill up large wine glasses with Italian Baci candies (each has a love saying) and leave them around the house.
•Send a card that makes your special someone laugh.
•Express gratitude by using loving words even if you are not feeling loving.
Researchers are reporting that the words “Thank you” might be the secret to good health and a long life and lots of love.
Robert A. Emmons, Ph.D., a professor of psychology at University of California at Davis, tells me: “Gratitude is an attitude, not a feeling that can be easily willed. Attitude change often follows behavior change. By living the gratitude that we do not necessarily feel, we can begin to feel that gratitude that we live.”
Adapted from “The Gift of Love” in my Lifebeat column for the Providence Journal
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