Infidelity hits the news so often these days that one would think it is an epidemic. It is not. You will see why this is so in our upcoming book Infidelity and Marriage: Deal-breaker or Wake-up Call? From national authorities working through the National Science Foundation surveys — controlled for bias and error — we know that infidelity is not an epidemic, but it is extremely painful for those in the throes of a marriage crisis.
What do we know of infidelity? It is declining from its already low rate of under 22% (over a lifetime) and has not gone up in 20 years say scientific researchers.
A way to overcome the anger
Decided it was time to revisit some of my Valentine’s Day suggestions. Even if you suspect infidelity, instead of stooping to snoop, take control. You do have within you the power of gratitude. With national authorities showing us that cheating has taken a downward turn, why not choose love?
Try falling in love again today
Paste a picture of you and your husband on the refrigerator, one of the two of your smiling happily.
Focus on that picture for 10 minutes and be grateful for that joy.
Write out what you love best about him — and before each quality use the words: ” Thank you for . . . .”
Write out three reasons why you fell in love.
Ignore all notions and thoughts of cheating.
Then what? For an entire day, walk, talk, think, and act as if you are married to the most wonderful man in the world. Think positively. Don’t stoop to snoop.
Before you think divorce!
Read what Dr. Ruth and Michele Weiner-Davis have to say before you think divorce.
Overselling infidelity on the Internet | Interviews withProfessor Edward O. Laumann, University of Chicago and Dr.Ruth Westheimer
Infidelity, meet sex addiction/Interviews with Dr. Aline Zoldbrod, Dr. Tom Smith, Michele Weiner-Davis
This is just one of Six Tips. Watch for the others.
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