Because I am an incurable romantic, I write a column about sex and relationships for the Providence Journal (see Relationship columns), I want everyone to fall in love and stay in love.
And I think part of what keeps love lively is hot sex. Cosmopolitan came through again with their new issue — 67 steamy ways. As I talked about the naughty sex Q and A with other woman today, I was reminded of a blog post I wrote as Valentine’s Day was approaching.
I was at the hairdresser talking about romance when I was interrupted by a Blackberry message that I had to answer. When I rejoined the conversation, suddenly I was listening to “sex talk.” Yes, in a very proper place, with very proper women I heard about someone’s Aunt Annette and her “Sex Tapes and Toy Shop.”
Whoa! Gadgets? I don’t even own a blender. I’m not good with things that have switches.
“Who goes to the shop?” I asked.
“Professionals – doctors, lawyers, and businessmen visit my Aunt together and she tries to be helpful,” replied the bouncy and beautiful woman.
In terms of helpful, while in Boston, I learned more about sex and relationships from the magazines and conversations at the hair dresser than in all my years at college such as. Women usually read these magazines. Men don’t. Men like car and sports magazines because these get right down to the basics.
So I ask you: Is life behind your closed doors, somewhat boring? Are you worried that he might be straying?
No talk, action! If you ansered “yes” to the above then forget the “We should talk” conversation. Action speaks louder than words. You don’t need me to draw pictures here.
Now, may I preface this by saying, I’m Italian. I believe a way to a man’s heart is through a wonderful meal, home cooked, or bought from a great store and placed in your own serving platters — however — here are some hair salon thoughts:
Do something provocative:
- Scan the Internet.
- Tell him some of the things you saw that surprised you. WATCH his eyes and reactions.
- Which peaked his interest?
- Ask, in a matter-of-fact manner, “Which of these toys should I bring to a shower for a friend getting married for the first time?” And don’t let him off the hook. Or ask, “Which would you like?”
- Whisper something to him that is romantic or “sex talk” shocking.
Why women like sex toys: According to my hair salon sources:
- They are fun.
- They perform on demand.
- They don’t talk back.
- And they don’t snore.
I am all for getting in the mood for love, but if you are as “on-and-off switch phobic” as I am – I even got rid of my television when I became confused with those remotes – then try some old fashioned sweetness and love. A good dinner always works and maybe, just maybe, become succulently creative with dessert.
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Copyright 2008 Rita Watson