There is a new book coming out recently featured in the Providence Journal about a woman’s 40th birthday present to her husband.
Frankly, from men and women who have shared this info with me, most men talk a good game — vacations are times of great intimacy — but once back into daily routine, they fade fast. Women have a different attitude.
The real issue is how well you both communicate. If two people respect each other’s words, whether or not they agree, but at least face each other and talk about the problem — then loving daily is not only possible, but will become a natural extension of feelings. Yes, sex every day is possible.
But women or men who have fallen in love with their critical side, “How many times have I told you….” will find that love and intimacy will leave them cold. Sex Every Night?
If I can offer any advice here it is this — spend time often with someone you love. Make a date every day to just be together to talk, to smile, and to interpret the silences. Even 10 minute coffee breaks are good.
I remember when I was a daily commuter and would meet husbands on the train. They often said that they joined their spouses for a drink every night. Many of them are still married, and happily. Am beginning to wonder if that little ritual is what fostered continuity, communication, and loving. (As for daily sex, I never asked. But as I think back, they all had a twinkle in their eyes.)
Copyright 2008 Rita Watson