Ever since the AP announced an upcoming report regarding the ideal duration for sex, couples seem to be concerned about performance.
Isn’t the ultimate intimacy supposed to be the ultimate expression of love?
We like to believe that love making is the coming together literally and figuratively of a couple whose hearts and souls are united. And when that is the case, there is no such thing as the perfect length of time or duration for love making because time is lost in ecstasy.
But in our society of incurable researchers, a number has been placed on optimal sexual duration, and yes, a stop watch was used. We did talk about this before — April 4th — but many of you had questions that were left unanswered.
Satisfaction: Now that the actual research has been published, these are the findings. A satisfactory sexual experience – excluding foreplay — lasts from 3 to 13 minutes according Penn State Erie researchers. How was this determined? Through a survey of 50 members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research who as a group have seen thousands of patients over several decades.
On the clock: The average responses for duration said that “adequate,” ranged between 3-7 minutes; “desirable,” between 7-13 minutes; whereas 1 -2 minutes was “too short” and 10 – 30 minutes was considered “too long”.
The goal of the study was to present realistic data about acceptable love making, thus preventing sexual disappointments and dysfunctions. Here is the abstract. Duration of Intercourse
The art of romance: Given the reports about cheating and infidelity making headlines today, it makes one wonder if married couples or couples in general have forgotten the art of romance. I know of couples in which the husband or lover still leaves chocolates under the pillow or a rose at the breakfast table. They make a point of leaving each other little love notes in surprising places — from bathroom mirror to inside suitcases to jacket pockets.
We will be presenting another report regarding satisfaction among married couples which is more positive than some of the gloomier findings these days.
Couples worried about sexual performance and duration might first take a look at romance. And if what is happening in the bedroom is boring, then try loving words or another room — or paint the room you have!
Here is a terrific article from WebMD: 10 Secrets to a Better Love Life
The magazine rack: Or get yourselves any one of the May magazines on the news stands – it seems that from Cosmo to GQ, from Women’s Health to Men’s Health the number of new tricks are enough to make one’s head spin, but duration aside, just reading the pages will spice up your life.
April 4, Optimal duration for sex and 2 good comments!
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Copyright 2008 Rita Watson