The most potent way to stop divorce is a change of attitude. And it is possible to make it happen.
For couples with failing marriages, Just a few quick suggestions. I know it may be hard to hear this especially after I had a long talk with a mother last night watching her son and daughter-in-law go through such pain and sadness with their 10 year olds. But think about this. Are you willing to accept this challenge?
- Take time to see the man or woman you married as the love of your life.
- Pull out those wedding photos.
- Start laughing again at each other’s jokes.
- Read “Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7 Step Plan for Saving Your Marriage” by Michele Weiner-Davis.
- Find the Boston Legal episode depicting a married couple who meet each other on the Internet under assumed identities and fall in love again.
Your visualization challenge. Think about the man you married and what you loved most about him. Think about the way you treated him when he was that person. Now see him as you wish him to be. And act accordingly. If you wait for a grump to come home each night, he will. If you expect a man to cheat, he will. If you anticipate an argument, it will happen.
But if you see your lover waking in the door, and treat him accordingly, you might be surprised!
Copyright 2008 Rita Watson