It hurts parents and it hurts children — divorce. We shake our heads sadly at the statistics. But now that we are learning that divorce hurts taxpayers, perhaps more attention will be paid to strengthening marriages.
The situation and problems inherent with divorce have been studied recently by a Georgia State University economist who is part of “the marriage movement.” They are suggesting that states do more to help strengthen and promote the concept of marriage as we have noted in many of our posts. Save Marriages (See March 20th, February 24th and Relationship Columns)
Just a few months ago, The Providence Journal ran a piece by Dr. Scott Haltzman advocating marriage education in the schools. The Brown University assistant professor is also author of two books that should be required reading: The Secrets of Happily Married Women and The Secrets of Happily Married Men.
Perhaps it is time to rethink the value of togetherness and show children two people giving to each other unselfishly for the sake of unity and love. Marriage Education
Perhaps it is time to watch our words as individuals, as couples before words become irreconcible differences. I remember when the good professor once told his child that words sometimes said even in jest can be hurtful. We know the power of words can influence a child’s self esteem. Words that Harm, Words that Heal
Perhaps if more couples watched their words, or listened to the tone of their voices — a greater respect for each other might develop into supportive words, forgiving words, or no words at all. I am not talking about the silent treatment, but rather the magic in a silent smile, a loving look into another’s eyes, a gentle touch.
Copyright 2008 ritawatson