Do you fall in love too easily then become disillusioned? How can we be a bit more discerning and keep the oxytocin illusion in check? Get to know your partner on more than just a casual basis. Spend time with one another. A one night moment of passion doesn’t cut it. Share a cup of…
Decisions: Toss the Grudges Bag
Anger creates multiple problems for ourselves and others. It is probably best to express what troubles us in a non-confrontational way. Otherwise you might find yourself tossing them into the “Grudges Bag” or gunny sack. Metaphorically speaking, gunny sacking is a conflict resolution term associated with the notion of storing up resentments. One day, it…
Decisions: Bad Stress, Good Stress
Ever find yourself in an “I don’t know where to turn” situation? Of course, we have all been in that overload place of too many decisions. A voice inside says, “Just stop and think a minute.” But you reason to yourself that there is no time. Further you will find yourself saying, “I’m too stressed…
Decisions: A Three Day Gratitude Plan
Compassion is more than just a feeling; it compels us to reach out and help others. At the Greater Good Science Center at the University of California, Berkeley, some scientists are even mapping “the biological basis of compassion.” Researchers there point out, “that when we feel compassion, our heart rate slows down, we secrete the…
Decisions: Be Loving and Kind
In our heart of hearts, we know what we should be doing to bring love and harmony into our own lives and the lives of those around us. Simple words from ancient philosophers have long revealed secrets that we should live by. Here are eight thoughts that should bring peace into everyone’s heart. Speak kindly…
Decisions: The Power of “No”
To protect yourself from over-commitment, a simple “No,” can become as important as a fairy godmother. If we say “Yes,” when we mean “No,” oftentimes the result is stress, anxiety, and even sleepless nights. Tips to help you find some serenity and peace are derived from an early book of mine: The Art of Decision…
Decisions: Politics and the ERA
If you think you are too busy to become involved in politics, take a look at the video clips of Ted Cruz, Lindsey Graham, and Josh Hawley questioning the Honorable Ketanji Brown Jackson. Their badgering tactics should make any woman’s blood pressure rise. Ted Cruz bordered on being abusive. We need more women in politics. …
Decisions: Not at this time!
When pressed as to the definition of “woman,” a trap set by Sen. Marsha Blackburn, it was with dignity that Judge Ketanji Brown Jackson, replied, “I can’t.” “You can’t?” Blackburn said. “Not in this context. I’m not a biologist,” Jackson said — also noting that such an issue may come before the courts. As a…
Decisions: 7 Roadblocks to Success
Decision making can be stressful. As we look around today’s world, we see that there is still turmoil with the mask mandates. With mothers needing to return to work. With parents concerned about their children returning to schools. Here are 7 stress situations to overcome by recognizing and overcoming the roadblocks and staying on the…
Birdwatching to Escape the Trump Word
Two large pine trees hover over the corner windows in my apartment. These seem to be a midway spot for a male and female cardinal, chickadees, and juncos. Once the quarreling blue jays wake me, I can sit by a widow and watch the flying parade swoop to a neighbor’s crushed bagels for their morning…