When I wrote about this a few years ago men called me sexist. And believe me, I don’t like the term. However the concept might be more appropriate today than ever before. It is really quite simple. With papers you’ll know if a dog is a pedigree and know if a man is really free.
Let’s face it with 2 out of 3 men cheating on their wives, according to Dr. Gary Newman, ladies your chances of falling in love with a man who is taken are pretty high.
One of the dangers of online dating is that men will reinvent themselves to be exactly whom you wish.
Yes, I know that women cheat as well – but that is tomorrow’s topic.
For now, be assured that it is as difficult to find out about a man as it is a dog. The latest news is that some dog owners are having tests on dogs to determine the pedigree. As the story goes, “Veterinarians advise owners that what they see in their dog is not always what they’ve got.” msnbc.msn
The same might be said for men – what you see is not always what you get. Peel away the layers and you might find a man with wife and children.
But let’s get back to the papers. In this day and age, when STDs are escalating among young women and women over 45 who are dating – you want papers that include a divorce decree to prove he is really free, and you want tests to show that he does not have a sexually transmitted disease. The divorced man may break your heart, but the one with herpes or worse will leave you infected for life.
How do you find a good man? I second the advice of Tinamarie Bernard, Modern Love Examiner, Love wholly, deeply, richly and on your own terms and you might be surprised by what you discover
But here is another suggestion as well. Buy yourself a journal and write out the qualities that you wish to find in a love, and I believe that love will come to you. Right now I still think we need commitment. Too much cheating, we need happily ever after
(Reprinted from my column in www.Examiner.com where I am the Love and Marriage Examiner National Relationships)
Copyright 2009 Rita Watson