There is nothing in the world of appearances that can help us detach from the deception of the love myth — and free us to find lasting love — with the same clarity as our intuition, our hunches.
The love myth, the one that tells us without love, without a relationship we are not whole, is poisonous. Why? Because the myth makes us feel that we should have a relationship and we often then become entwined in an infatuation that masquerades as love. Or we stay in an unhealthy relationship, where we end up disconnecting from ourselves.
Ironically deep in our hearts each and everyone of us knows when we are lying for love. Those with the courage to trust their instincts and admit the truth can confront the lie before being consumed by it.
The more connected we are to ourselves, the easier it will be to connect meaningfully to others. We do that by listening to our inner voice. The voice that men develop from their history on the playing fields, the battlefields, and the mine fields of corporate takeovers and academia. The voice that women develop from watching and listening and “knowing, just knowing.”
When one is lying for love, one must hope for the inner voice to save us — a little nagging feeling inside. We may rationalize. We may tell ourselves that this is our destiny. We may think that “head over heels” is real, but deep inside when little truths begin surfacing, we know. Simply say the words: “I think I am really in love and I think I am loved in return” — do you believe them? I think the real bond comes when you can say, “I know that WE are in love with each other.”
Copyright 2008 Rita Watson