Whenever we think we are finally in order, that except for the love in our life, things are really going well, it is time to think again. A little book called “Imperfect Spirituality” by Polly Campbell is one of those books that gently reminds us to take a closer look at ourselves.
In a section called “Focus on Fondness” she reminds us of how easy it is to “fret and worry about all that our partner isn’t doing right.” She suggests that instead of letting our mind wander to that place where we list all of our irritations we move back to loving. She says, “Just a few minutes of focused fondness can ease a little relationship strife and promote better feelings.” (page 147)
The book is by Viva Editions which also brought us a book by Mary Beth Sammons and Nina Lesowitz called “Living Life as a Thank you.”
While I often suggest putting a photo of you and your love on the refrigerator door to remind yourself of happy times instead of fretting, a few mindfulness moments to recap your partner’s positive qualities will bring you to a happier place.
Gratitude and appreciation are healthier than the anger brewing as you let someone else’s little imperfections simmer inside of you. Wish them blessing, be gracious and you can quickly make the choice to kiss instead of scowl.
Copyright 2014 Rita Esposito