Who tells more believable lies — men or women? Magazines and blogs say the women tell a better story, but men lie more often.
Women often say they are not really lying, they are simply telling a complicated form of the truth — or they tell the truth in such a complicated way that a man gets confused and gives up trying to get at the truth.
What do women try to hide? First and foremost women lie to themselves about love. They oftentimes convince themselves they are in love because they are afraid “not to be” in love. However, when lying to a man, according to most websites the top three variations of truth include:
- Number of past lovers — (It slips her mind because some were just casual affairs not serious relationships.)
- Being pregnant – (Says she didn’t realize it because she didn’t have any of the usual symptoms.)
- Having a sexually transmitted disease – (Claims she didn’t think that her STD was contagious because she hasn’t had an outbreak in years, or it happened so long ago that she just forgot about it.
What do men try to hide? Basically the fact that they are cheating or that they are simply not really invested in the relationship. But men will also be dishonest about a gambling habit or some other addiction. (Brad Pitt in The Cleaner. Provocative scene when he is confronted about his lying.)
How can you you when tell a man is lying? Oftentimes, he isn’t very good at it. However sometimes men tell little white lies as depicted here in an article by Dr. Joyce Brothers. White lies.
How can a man tell when a woman is lying? She gets mad at you for accusing her – pouts, throws a tantrum, witholds sex, or refuses to speak with you – even though you may be right and she may be guilty. Or she becomes overly affectionate. Lies Women Tell
In HER defense and in HIS defense: It is really about communicating with each other. Oftentimes couples do not communicate well because one or the other explodes and the other person is afraid to tell the truth. Or one person walks rather than talks. Take a look at your communication style.
Gay or straight — the truth is the truth: I was told the following by two gay men who have been together for three years. But it has surfaced in heterosexual couples as well in terms of unfaithful and jealous. The person pointing the finger and accusing, “You are cheating on me, aren’t you?” is oftentimes the person doing the cheating. The person who claims to be jealous if you look at another man or woman, is often the person doing the looking. This couple meet while exchanging stories of partner’s accusing them! They are happily together and continue to be monogamous.
And if you think you are too smart or above being trapped in buying a lie, I’ll remind you all about Anne Hathaway. Seems that her man Raffaello Follieri, 30, has been arrested for alledgedly swindling millions. According to PEOPLE magazine, “She was completely blinded on this one.”from People magazine
What should you do if you suspect you are being lied to? Instead of buying a story, confront without being confrontational. And talk to friends! This is one time you should not be relying on your own judgement. If your friends think you are being duped even after what you think is a plausible story — you probably are living in LaLa Land.
In my little world — shades of gray are not very appealing. I like black and white… the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth.”
Copyright 2008 Rita Watson