“When do you walk away from infidelity?” is a question I have asked many times. In the world of entertainment the question has many answers.
There are the rumors about A-Rod, New York Yankee Alex Rodriguez, and Madonna. “Not so,” says Madonna. “A divorce” says A -Rod’s wife.
Then there is no denying the Lara Logan story. The CBS reporter is expecting the child of a married man whom she met in Iraq.
What’s infidelity all about? Let me point out once again that much of the research points to a need that is more than sexual — it is about a lack of understanding, a lack of communication, unkind words, or passive agressive behavior, the real relationship killer which happens when one or the other simply withdraws or walks.
The opposite sex: Also, it isn’t always an attraction to the opposite sex that is the infidelity culprit. Some readers have told me of the hurt they experienced when their spouses drifted off with someone of the same sex.
A practical perspective: Please understand, if the relationship is over — despite the pain and the hurt you might feel, simply know that he or she was not the right person for you. However, I encourage you to read other postings about saving your marriage or relationship despite infidelity. Just go to SEARCH — top of the page right and put in “infidelity.”
From fantasy to herpes: Sometimes relationships end because a man or a woman has a fantasy image. Then he or she sees someone who looks like their dream, but only too late realize that looks deceive. And I have heard too many stories about men who find the love of their life, throw caution to the wind, jeopardize their careers or families, and then end up divorced or as one smart man learned — even worse — herpes! You can be done with someone after a divorce, herpes is with you all your life.
The scoop on two new scandals:
- Madonna and A-Rod and why is his wife suing for divorce? Madonna link; More from nbc5i.com
- Lara Logan A reporter tells her story
Taking what doesn’t belong and Boundry violations: Someone once told me that infidelity was really like stealing — it is taking something that doesn’t belong to you. An attorney pointed out to me that any boundry violation can be seen as “infidelity to one’s character” such as: teacher-student, employer-employee, religious leader-congregation member or children. Infidelity damages one’s integrity.
A wise old saying: A relationship ends as it begins. If it begins in deception according to the law of karma those involved will be deceived. If it begins hot and fiery, it will end in ashes. If it begins thoughtfully and honestly — it will last and last and last.
Copyright 2008 Rita Watson