Just a bit of practical advice here for those who are stinging from a break-up.
- Fall in love with a new habit even if it is a walk around the park –and it will help you get over your ex if you truly observe what is around you.
- Take up exercise and run until you are breathless and your head will spin and your will forget about your ex at least for those moments.
- Find a new hobby or read a good book that totally captivates you and you won’t give a thought to your ex.
- Go out with real friends and never discuss your ex-lover.
- Plant a window garden, nurture it, care for it, and watch the flowers bloom — become absorbed enough in the process and you will think about it as a way of planting new seeds in your heart to blossom new feelings for new love.
- Write a long list of all your own positive qualities until you feel good about yourself again and will wonder why you ever loved your ex-love.
- Remind yourself each day that somewhere in the universe is a person looking for you.
Can ex-lovers be friends? As I said yesterday I think in some cases they can and should be — next week we will explore this further.
Also watch for the upcoming:
“How co-dependents manipulate and eventually dominate in their demand for loyalty.”
“How women in Tokyo have learned to seduce men who are caretakers.”
“Therapists, what’s going on here?” — an answer to a reader’s question. See May 9th and 10th.
Copyright 2008 Rita Watson