Facebook Retrosexuals: back in the news

The Retrosexual story has just hit TIME magazine and the news. Facebook Reunites Long-Lost Crushes – TIME But you read it here first in my article last February. Retrosexual romance, reviving old love
The scenario goes something like this. Your lover has been absorbed with the sports channel.. Your husband is not really interested in sex. You are wishing for romance.
Now tell the truth. Have you been searching Facebook for former lovers or even college and high school sweethearts?
It you answered, “Yes,” then you are part of a growing trend as reported by Claire Suddath for a piece in the new issue. It is called Facebook Reunites Long-Lost Crushes – TIME . She says “The Boston Phoenix even coined a term, retrosexuals, for people who are taking the plunge … Most retrosexual experiences seem to spring from an intense,
And on Newsradio 620 – Gene Mueller said, “It’s a trend that now has a name: retrosexuality. Have you done it? What happened when you did? Was it good for you, or was it a trip on the pain train?” Are You A Retrosexual?

My own thoughts have not changed on the subject. As I see it, for many women it is a way of reviving fish you had already tossed back to the sea. Or looking up an old lover who spurned you – and meeting him for a date looking sexy and hot. In some ways, this new fad is threatening to become an elevated form of friends with benefits, sex benefits, that is.

This is how it works. You hook up with an old flame from your past, most often just to meet and rehash old times. But oftentimes, those times were rolls in the hay or in the back seat of a car. And so the new times become hot times.

Why the resurgence of old lovers and new encounters? Facebook makes it easier than ever to turn back the tide. What makes the leap from “let’s have lunch” to sex and passion is simple – familiarity. We go back to what we know. As Deidre Fulton says in “Meet the Retrosexuals,” in the Providence Phoenix, “It’s security. It’s safety. It’s brining back old feelings that make you feel young again.”

Going back looking for a future: There is an odd coincidence with the word “retrosexuals.” Look it up on the Internet and some definitions say it is a return to the past world in which dates were serious dates. For example 10 years ago a man would never say to you after dinner, “Shall we split this?”
Oftentimes with retrosexuals it is back to high school or college friends. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn’t. Before you go back looking for a future, just make sure you understand the risks and benefits. Here is the full article. Are you a retrosexual?

And give yourself some ground rules, particularly if you are divorcing and thinking of dating!

Have you read my stories about Annie Le?

Or perhaps listen to music:

Or laugh about old times and good times:

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