We’ve been at this beautiful summer place visiting long-time friends who live steps from the beach. Nonetheless I was not among the sun-bathers today. I rolled up my white pants, kept on a long shirt, and simply walked along the tide line. No bathing suit for this body.
Of course everyone is offering me great advice on how to shed the “teen” extra pounds — and it comes down to drinking water and exercise.
“An added bonus,” confided one friend who has become gym-addicted, “is an improved sex life.” Her comment reminded me of a piece on ABC News in which Dr. Laura Berman did talk about the relationship between one’s body image and one’s sex life.
To compound my bathing suit blues today someone sent this fun Evian ad of the skating babies. It begins by asking: “How does drinking Evian make you feel?” I can tell you what I felt after seeing this — depressed. I want my energy back!
Weight and sex: The relationship between weight and sex is a serious issue. An ABC News story reported, “Nearly 60 percent of women who regarded themselves as overweight said that they would not allow their partner to see them naked, a survey published in Slimming magazine, a British magazine, found.
“More than 80 percent of the women surveyed claimed that their excess weight was also ruining their sex lives.
“Laura Berman says that women who feel inhibited about sex because of their bodies should learn to develop healthier images of their bodies. ‘Be sure not to use your weight as a defense against being sexual or involved with someone,’ Laura Berman said.
“‘t comes down to healthy body image. It’s also about body self acceptance, being comfortable with the way your body works and functions.’ … ‘Being nude and being comfortable in your nudeness is just as sexy,’ Berman said. Plus, feather boas are a one-size-fits-all prop that is suitable for any woman.'” ABC News weight and sex
Weight-y issues: And if you are about to work on your body, keep this advice in mind from Kristen Houghten, Relationship Examiner, “Body improvement only works well when you do it for yourself, not because someone has told you to do it. If you are concerned about “jiggle,” (which all normal women have a bit of), go to a gym and ask about a strength training class and Pilates. Both will give you stamina and help tighten your body. It will also empower you mentally knowing that you are in control of yourself and a strong healthy woman. Weight-y issues – Relationship Reality
Queen Latifah photo: She is the image of a confident woman — someone who appears to feel comfortable about herself as Dr. Berman suggests is a healthy way for all of us to feel.
As for me, I had eight glasses of water, three cups of tea, walked for 45 minutes, and bought a magazine that said, “How to lose 19 pounds in a week.”
Copyright 2009 Rita Watson