Flirting is a body language movement that portrays many sensual words, without words. 
I learned recently that men and women who look for partners on-line are well schooled in the art of flirting, dating and mating.
I was at my favorite pub the other evening, invited by a young man whom I consider to be a drinking buddy. He is attractive, very sexy, but too young in spirit even by most Cougar standards. It was a windy evening and I had my hair piled high and held with a big barrette. So as I sat next to him and he ordered me a South Beach Diet drink, I took the barrette from my hair and shook my head.
“Ah, ha,” he said, “So you really are interested in our being together. What you just did with your hair is blatant flirting.”
I smiled sweeting and said, “Absolutely! And when your kids grow up and leave home, call me. We could become a really hot couple.”
Actually, I love children – babies with nannies and young adults in college out of state. And so as we chatted in between calls from his children, I began to covet the olives next to him. Not wishing to disturb his fourth phone call, I leaned across him and helped myself.
He immediately touched my arm, ended the call, and said to me: “Hmm, now you who writes about relationships and sex, did you see what you just did? You just moved into my space. More flirting.” Then with a twinkle, he added, “I hope that it was deliberate.”
I answered, “Yes, it was. I’m starving and you are hogging all the olives.”
Others joined us. The group expanded. And just as the appetizers arrived, I spotted a gentleman coming towards us. A stately politician, he and I had been criss-crossing each other for a few weeks. So as I leaned back in my chair preparing myself to greet him with a kiss-kiss, Mr. Too Young said, “What’s this? What’s happening? I can tell from your body language that you just withdrew from me totally.”
Without skipping a beat, I admitted, “That’s true, I did so to kiss the Elder Statesman. ”
The next day as we were talking about his “in depth” knowledge of flirting and body language, he confessed: “I love on-line dating, as you know. And if you are a member of certain on-line groups, you get some extra advice.”
Well extra advice or not, I’m still not changing my opinion of on-line dating. I’m suspicious of the whole thing. But I did do some further checking on body language, a hot Internet topic.
There is a slide presentation from former FBI agent Joe Navarro presented by the WashingtonPost.com called Every body’s talking. The article has an embedded slide show presentation called “What We Say Without Words.” It is crystal clear. And here is a link to http://www.flirting.com/
Copyright 2008 Rita Watson