The truth about intuition is simple. The more connected we are to ourselves the easier it will be to connect meaningfully to others. Why is this? Because our inner voice is clear and unequivocal.
After yesterday’s posting on Hunches and Intuition, a reader wrote and asked, “Do intuition and destiny marry?” Hope Roderick comes back to clarify.
Intuition leads to bonding love: Intuition leads us to our destiny, the man or woman to whom we are destined for life long love. I am not talking about infatuation, not that high moment of waking on air that feels like and becomes an addiction in which we try to ignore what our inner voice is telling us — or even waving the red flags. I am talking about a relationship in which two people are clear in their minds that each can offer the other treasured, honest love with no strings attached. No hidden agendas.
I have a friend who just married; his new wife talks more about her shoes than her love. I certainly can’t judge a sister Imelda. But as one friend pointed out — other than her shoes and smile — what does she bring to the table?
When something doesn’t feel right: If you are in a relationship that is satisfying for the most part, but “something doesn’t feel right” listen to your inner voice. Talk to your friends. Then talk to your new love. Listen for fine line between truth and near-truth.
And if something does really annoy you, confront without being confrontational. Sometimes people shade the truth because they are afraid. Make it easy for both or you to put all of your cards on the table.
Remember the Emmet Fox story about an irritation as an ember that flies from the fireplace. If it stays on your sleeve, it will burn a hole. “Flick it off.”
Trust your instincts: Once you start to trust your intuition you will find the courage to get out relationships that are hurtful. Then you will have room for wonderful new opportunities. The comments from hundreds of interviews in writing my books indicate that many women give away too much of themselves in relationships by loving someone who is is hurting them emotionally or even physically.
There was a recent New York Times article that says “Hope” is the negative force that keeps us chained. You stay stay in a relationship because you hope it will get better. Change even for the better is stressful. But if it is time for a change – do so with love.
Serendipity’s surprise: Make room in your life and heart for Serendipity’s surprise. Serendipity is chance — those chance meetings that come out of the blue. When you stop home to pick up an umbrella and an old college love stops by “taking a chance that you might be there.” Sitting next to someone at a graduation and discovering that you both love to laugh, like the feel of newsprint on your hands, and adore champagne.
What is key is keeping a positive attitude. When someone bumps into you and spills coffee, look up and smile. It could be the love of your life.
What does your intuition tell you about your choices in relationships up to now? What is the mistake you keep making over and over again? Decide now to change the pattern –find a partner who brings out the best in you — and you will both find yourselves loving life!
And yes, intuition and destiny do marry when we are open. When we say to the universe, I am looking for life long love then we should keep our eyes open wide, because life long love is looking for us as well.
Yearnings and Intuition: Rabbi Irwin Kula in his book called Yearnings: Embracing the Sacred Messiness of Life says, in the opening section on LOVE –“It all begins with the yearning for love. The observation ‘It is not good to be alone’ is the first intuition about human beings in the Bible, in the story of Adam and Eve.” Rabbi Kula’s interpretation is one in which intuition and destiny embrace as Adam and Eve move from the garden of disappointment into the world of intimacy.
Copyright 2008 Rita Watson