Anger creates multiple problems for ourselves and others. It is probably best to express what troubles us in a non-confrontational way. Otherwise you might find yourself tossing them into the “Grudges Bag” or gunny sack. Metaphorically speaking, gunny sacking is a conflict resolution term associated with the notion of storing up resentments.
One day, it is so filled with anger that it bursts at the seams.
We all know that spilling a glass of milk can trigger an explosive argument. But it isn’t the milk, per se. It’s that gunny sack of grievances.
Whenever you think to yourself, “This is the last straw; now I’m really going to blow my stack” — Stop — Take a minute to breathe. This is when “Silence is golden.” We talk so much about anger in our society that few of us realize how damaging it can be.
Although we cannot really control our feelings — because we feel what we feel — we can control our reaction. Sometimes we may not say what is on our minds to the person who made us angry, but, the next person who comes along becomes the recipient of our unkind words.
Here are some thoughts for heading off conflicts:
Create a serenity spot: Find a place within your home for gathering your thoughts. Use it as a cooling off spot, a place to help you feel forgiving and grounded.
Watch your words: When you are angry, say so in an non-accusatory way.
Ask yourself if it’s worth the fight: “Is this situation going to matter in two years?” The answer will probably be “No.” So now the next step is to move on — free yourself. And be grateful for the opportunity to move forward.
Copyright 2022 Rita Watson