Now that David Duchovny’s second secret has been revealed, the identity of his alleged mistress, it seems appropriate to revisit “The Truth About Why Men Cheat.”
I write often about men and women who cheat and why it is important to value marriage. But last month when I wrote about this – just before another scandal rocked the House of Representatives in Florida – I added another expert to the mix of those with sensible research and opinions. M. Gary Newman is a marriage counselor and author of a new book called, “The Truth About Cheating.” Gary Newman’s Book at Amazon.com
Dr. Newman is a psychotherapist and rabbi who is married and has five children. He has also written about emotional infidelity. One of the surprise findings in his book is that men do not always cheat because of sex or lack thereof.
Thanks to a reader who sent me this link today, here is more information about a very disturbing trend. Why Men Cheat – Redbook feature was highlighted on Yahoo’s Dating 101.
Related articles in the post include: Diary of an Affair and 8 Things No One Tells You About Marriage
The Shocker: But for me, the real shocker came in learning about the number of men who cheat – “One in 2.7 men will have affairs!” Dr. Newman not only talks about why men cheat but also factors in their wives, not in a blaming sort of way, but as a way to empower women. Oprah interview
Happily Married: The news about marriage is not all gloomy. Another author, whom I write about often, is Dr. Scott Haltzman. His books are aimed at empowering women and men to keep their marriages strong and loving. Secrets of Happily Married Men and Secrets of Happily Married Women
Mayo Clinic Advice on Healing after an Affair: In truth, we do have a choice. Oftentimes it is the forgiveness factor. But the Mayo Clinic tells us, “Infidelity causes intense emotional pain — anger, disbelief, fear, guilt, shame. But an affair doesn’t have to mean the end of your marriage.” To learn more about how a marriage can be rebuilt after an affair, go to Mayo Clinic Infidelity
Copyright 2008 Rita Watson