We thought that breaking up is hard to do, but new research just out says, it is actually not so bad. How can that be? It may depend upon one’s age. Freshman in a new study said it only took about 2 -3 months to recover. But….
How easy can it really be to break up? This is the research from Northwestern. Breaking up is easy to do
But we think that for adults, breaking up is hard to do. It happens to all of us all too often. You meet someone and you think you have each been touched by the same star.
Then what started as love turns into an annoyance, sometimes anger, sometimes hate. Sometimes there is just a feeling of being controlled. Sometimes it is a sadness. And many times a relationship ends because two people seem to be moving in different directions. Whatever the reason – someone decides, “I want out.”
If ending a relationship was easy, there would not be so many songs written about ending relationships.
Deciding how to say “It’s over.”
1. Before saying anything at all, write out the pros and cons of the relationship.
2. Write out the 5 qualities about the other person that helped you to fall in love.
3. Write out at least 2 things that brought the two of you joy.
4. In a completely rational way ask yourself, “If he or she were breaking up with me, what are the words that I would want to hear. Start from a positive position – “We have shared happy times together.”
5. State the reality – “Something is not working between us.”
6. Express your need – “I need to move on.”
7. Be willing to listen, calmly, to the other person’s reaction.
And it is all right to cry!
© Copyright 2008 Rita Watson