The Advice Question

Posted on by Rita Watson

We all seek advice — whether about a new love, a financial decision, medical decision, a job, day-care, or children.  But when should we listen? Sometimes it makes more sense to make your own decision and then ask others to confirm your thoughts.  But if you do wish other opinions, whom should you ask?
DO ASK friends, neighbors, and business associates.

  • Friends you admire who seem to make good decisions
  • Associates from a business group, your church, arts council, or political group
  • Friends who have experience making decisions similar to the one you are now facing

DONT’ ASK or ACCEPT advice from Know it alls

  • Those whose attitude is “my way or the highway”
  • Those who put you on a spot, for example, you ask about a lawyer and they go right to the phone, dial a number and say, “Here, talk to my friend, he is the best.”
  • Those whose mind is already made up.
  • Keep in mind: You want objectivity.  You want different points of view. You want information to help you make an informed decision.

    • It is good to gather facts.  But in the final analysis, it is oftentimes best to weigh your options in the quiet of your heart of hearts. 
    Copyright 2008 Rita Watson