Adultery – as we continue along the Dictionary of Love and Danger for Men Only, many women are thinking — he knows what that is about. In fact, one website we list here points out that women are moving up there along with men who cheat. It is rather sad that there is even a website AshleyMadison.com for adulterers and adultresses.
We don’t recommend the site because we believe in the law of karma. If you cheat, you will be cheated. Also there is good evidence that if you are involved with a married women, who is lying to her husband about you, she is probably lying to you about him.
Who is doing the cheating these days? Both men and women. “After researching women’s sexuality for more than ten years, I can honestly say that most of our societal beliefs about females are grossly distorted and many are completely erroneous,” says Michelle Langley, author of Women’s Infidelity on her website. Womens Infidelity
Love and danger: Where is the love and danger here? In terms of adultery there is usually danger. But many men think they are in love with the other woman. And many women believe that their lover will leave their wives just for them.
Artificial setting: What is mistaken for love is the artificial relationship, the loving that we think is simple and pure and sweet because it is out of context with life. Love and passion work so well together when one is on vacation, when there are no children around, when there is no work to attend to, when there is no day to day routine of what life is all about.
And so hiding within the artifical world of “an affair” one pretends to find love and instead finds that love is simply a lie.
Stop, Don’t: Here is one website that encourages you to stop that divorce and take a look at that affair. “More often than not, adultery isn’t the cause of divorce; it’s just one of the symptoms.” Read about adultery and how it can ruin your marriage, but what you might do to stop that divorce nonetheless from the Alabama Family Law Center. Divorce info
*Copyright 2008 Rita Watson from The Dictionary of Love and Danger: For Men Only, an FEV Publication