Men cheat. And women cheat. But today let’s look at why men cheat on their wives. It was recently an Oprah feature.
I write often about men and women who cheat and why it is important to value marriage. But today I am adding another expert to the mix. M. Gary Newman is a marriage counselor and author of a new book called, “The Truth About Cheating.”
Dr. Newman is a psychotherapist and rabbi who is married and has five children. He has also written about emotional infidelity. One of the surprise findings in his book is that men do not always cheat because of sex or lack thereof.
But for me, the real shocker came in learning about the number of men who cheat — “One in 2.7 men will have affairs!” He apparently interviewed hundreds of men for his book in order to document his findings.
He not only talks about why men cheat but also factors in their wives, not in a blaming sort of way, but as a way to empower women.
Another author, whom I write about often is Dr. Scott Haltzman. His books are also aimed at empowering women and men to keep their marriages strong and loving.
In talking about his newest book, “Secrets of Happily Married Women,” he said: “Your actions can show your husband how to care for you. As you cater to your guy, he’s watching and learning what marriage means. He’s enjoying the love and care of his wife and will soon feel, if he doesn’t already, the desire to do the same for you.”
For now, here is the link to Oprah’s interview with Gary Newman. Oprah interview
Am also linking to the perspective of another blogger. Why Men Cheat: Marriage Counselor Gary Newman Explains Affairs . Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen lives on Bowen Island, British Columbia (in Canada). Her website is theAdventurousWriter.com
Here is a link to Gary Newman’s Book at Amazon.com
This week, I will pull together all of the articles on Cheating with separate links for easy reading.
Copyright 2008 Rita Watson